So...unbeknownst to his wife,Glenn is having New Year's Eve Pizza in Tempe in December of 2008 and in August of 2008, he is paying someone else's tuition at MCC.
But WITH his wife, in January 2009, we take the first family "vacation" ever to Washington, D.C., in February, Glenn is writing me love notes, in March he is coming home early from work for the first time ever in 13 years of marriage in order to "make love to his beloved wife." Not to mention carpooling with his wife to work 2-3 days per week throughout the Spring of 2009.
And receiving notes like the one above led his wife to believe that actually her relationship with her husband had reached a point where the marriage was a solid commitment.
Glenn was still living at the family home. In fact in April 2009, Glenn had flown to California to attend my graduation at the completion of a 3 year course I had been enrolled in there.
So, with all the signs of love in the marriage, I did not even suspect Dena's existence; although in retrospect there were signs of her presence. Glenn was doing things very unlike him, which perhaps were things that he was being coached to do by another woman. Changes that experts say are telltale signs of an affair. I will not go into the very intimate details in such a public forum, however suffice to say, that the changes did NOT cause the rift between Glenn that I think they were intended to create.
I believe Glenn decided to leave only after he knew that I was not going to contribute any more funds to his private accounts unless he showed me what was happening there. These were the accounts that Glenn was using to pay our utility bills.
But he couldn't open these books to me or I would have seen that he had paid for someone's tuition at Mesa Community College in the fall of 2008. And that he'd had a dinner engagement in Tempe on New Year's Eve 2008.
Memorial Day weekend he told me that he was staying with a "friend from work and their family; thinking over our marriage and things" he said. This made no sense to me, given the state of our relationship at the time; but I honored Glenn's privacy preferences.
It wasn't until the last week in June when he told me of his affair and started to openly move into Dena's apartment that I found out about the above expenditures when I came across some credit statements that he had left behind.
Perhaps eventually I will block out the identifying data and upload those credit statements. But for me, one of the main thrusts of this site is to offer empathy and then empowerment for others who may be going or who have undergone through similar circumstances.
Documentation is only provided here as just that - documentation. And as therapeutic as it has been to go through emails in preparation for court; It is just too tiring to document every untruth. Hopefully there are enough facts presented to allow an overview of the Anatomy of My Divorce to be seen from different perspectives without being viewed as nothing more than a pity party.
For surely, if you visit the seasons of 2011, you will find that no pity is required nor requested.
But WITH his wife, in January 2009, we take the first family "vacation" ever to Washington, D.C., in February, Glenn is writing me love notes, in March he is coming home early from work for the first time ever in 13 years of marriage in order to "make love to his beloved wife." Not to mention carpooling with his wife to work 2-3 days per week throughout the Spring of 2009.
And receiving notes like the one above led his wife to believe that actually her relationship with her husband had reached a point where the marriage was a solid commitment.
Glenn was still living at the family home. In fact in April 2009, Glenn had flown to California to attend my graduation at the completion of a 3 year course I had been enrolled in there.
So, with all the signs of love in the marriage, I did not even suspect Dena's existence; although in retrospect there were signs of her presence. Glenn was doing things very unlike him, which perhaps were things that he was being coached to do by another woman. Changes that experts say are telltale signs of an affair. I will not go into the very intimate details in such a public forum, however suffice to say, that the changes did NOT cause the rift between Glenn that I think they were intended to create.
I believe Glenn decided to leave only after he knew that I was not going to contribute any more funds to his private accounts unless he showed me what was happening there. These were the accounts that Glenn was using to pay our utility bills.
But he couldn't open these books to me or I would have seen that he had paid for someone's tuition at Mesa Community College in the fall of 2008. And that he'd had a dinner engagement in Tempe on New Year's Eve 2008.
Memorial Day weekend he told me that he was staying with a "friend from work and their family; thinking over our marriage and things" he said. This made no sense to me, given the state of our relationship at the time; but I honored Glenn's privacy preferences.
It wasn't until the last week in June when he told me of his affair and started to openly move into Dena's apartment that I found out about the above expenditures when I came across some credit statements that he had left behind.
Perhaps eventually I will block out the identifying data and upload those credit statements. But for me, one of the main thrusts of this site is to offer empathy and then empowerment for others who may be going or who have undergone through similar circumstances.
Documentation is only provided here as just that - documentation. And as therapeutic as it has been to go through emails in preparation for court; It is just too tiring to document every untruth. Hopefully there are enough facts presented to allow an overview of the Anatomy of My Divorce to be seen from different perspectives without being viewed as nothing more than a pity party.
For surely, if you visit the seasons of 2011, you will find that no pity is required nor requested.