Words to the other woman
I hope that if you find your way to this website that you will think seriously about the words above and below. However, considering that you were married to someone else at the same time that you were living with my husband -even before he and I were legally separated- or he had told me of you - I can imagine that these words may mean little to you.
Still I am going to advise you to be wise enough to know that there are three sides to every story of marriage: his, hers and the truth which is somewhere in between.
I wouldn't suggest anyone to pursue or be in a third rail relationship with a married person. A marriage is a partnership. If a businessman were to say to you "Well, I've been in a business with someone for quite a few years but I'm not happy with how things are going there, and intend to get rid of my partner so that I can start the same kind of business with you;" my advice to you would be to be wary. I would advise you to let him finish negotiating and closing up shop with his other partner, before beginning any venture with him. And watch how he handles that dissolution. It will lend you some insight into how he will handle discord and business disagreements with you as well.
I have tried to make my partner happy since 1996. And his first wife tried to make him happy for 18 years before that. There may be issues surrounding the failures of his failed partnerships that you might want to explore further. However, based on how you have been complicit in hiding your affair on the job and in public, perhaps you don't really care much about Glenn's best interest or long term happiness. Or perhaps you think you two can be successful when others have failed. Or maybe you are not interested in his future security at all and are nothing more than a leech; drawing the money out of his arteries until he has no more to offer. But I can only judge behavior. I do not know your heart.
When my friends and I first saw you with my then husband Glenn, we were aghast. We figured he was just giving you a ride home. We were expecting to find that he was going over a male friend's house to spend the night, because that is what Glenn had led me to believe. So we guessed that you were a friend of a friend. The long fingernails and fake hair that you had at the time, were things that we knew were unattractive to Glenn. But when the two of you reached your apt on First Street and you attempted to give him a kiss, only to be rebuffed; that is when we knew. And we were thoroughly shocked; Glenn looked so lost and out of sync with himself.
Not that everyone has a right to pursue their version of beautiful for themselves. We all do. However my then husband Glenn had led me to believe though that your version was something he would never be attracted to.
And when I saw your My Space profile and your pictures there, it only served to confirm my first impressions. I do not understand the world of Santa in thongs, tag names like 'NIgaz betta watch out for Dem pockets,' or men pursuing you because they've seen your online video. Or even men posting and perusing about how many other men may have had the pleasure of your boobies; or friends who would encourage you to 'go after' a married man.
Still however, everyone is entitled to their lifestyle. - I do not know a wise woman though who would encourage another woman to pursue, be pursued or otherwise have secret relations with a married man. Or who would greet the pool guy wearing hot pants while their beloved is at work. Personally, I think the lies, secrets, and online comments have been utterly disgusting. But the anger, sorrow and pain I have experienced over these past two years have given me the most wonderfully unique opportunity to transition into an even more beautiful person.
And I sincerely thank you both for that.
Finally, I would caution you about using brothers, family or friends to try and intimidate or physically accost a woman in order to keep her away from a man you consider your own. For me, if I had to do that in the beginning, then I would think that I would have to be prepared to do it all through my relationship with him. I would never suggest doing that in order to hold onto a man, but then apparently you are. I would be wary of a man who acts like a dog; and who does not respect his wife or the vows that he gave her. Of course, none of this matters if you believe what you covet is justified, maybe because of whatever you were told or whatever you believe. Discovering that you had not yet divorced your own husband while sleeping with mine, gives me pause as to what exactly you do believe about courting, relationships, and marriage.
So perhaps I should just advise you to think about the two mottos you posted: "What goes around comes around" and "Any dick can make a baby, but it takes a man to be a daddy." Think about what has been going around these past two years; And consider this man's relationship with his five children - Is he a dick or a dad to them?
I made a vow to love this man through good times and bad, through ugly and nice; so do not be surprised that I love him still. But it is an agape love now - which wishes him the best in life, - his personal best, and the fulfillment of all that he can be. How that could be possible through his willingness to covertly live with another woman instead of working to pursue happiness with the love of his youth, I do not know. For these actions speak to something within him that friends and family never knew was possible for him. So do not be surprised that I would be concerned.
Do not be surprised that I would lift him up in prayer before the Great Redeemer, who is the only One who can heal the pain and shame that he must be feeling in order to behave so far outside of what everyone thought was his character. Pain that you and I can't heal. - And know that that is where I have left him.
For my calling is to a higher power; that requires the personal best from me too. Throughout this affair I have tried to my best to be done with the burden of a house divided against itself, in order that I could fulfill my potential as well. And a big part of the motivation in creating this website is to portray my journey in doing so, throughout the Anatomy of My Divorce.
I suggest you read the allegory "Why." All of us win and lose in life. Our competition is not with each other, but with the evil that lurks within us. If I were you, I would be wary of a man who would have another woman's ring on his hand while covertly promising that your the one he can really be true to. If it is money and benefits that you are after, be wary of what you might gain or lose in the process. All that glitters is not gold. Be cautious not to love too much; considering that you have already adopted a role of 'rescuing' this man. And 'Live righteously, so that when we are old we can look back and enjoy our lives again'.... Pursue a truer happiness.
Still I am going to advise you to be wise enough to know that there are three sides to every story of marriage: his, hers and the truth which is somewhere in between.
I wouldn't suggest anyone to pursue or be in a third rail relationship with a married person. A marriage is a partnership. If a businessman were to say to you "Well, I've been in a business with someone for quite a few years but I'm not happy with how things are going there, and intend to get rid of my partner so that I can start the same kind of business with you;" my advice to you would be to be wary. I would advise you to let him finish negotiating and closing up shop with his other partner, before beginning any venture with him. And watch how he handles that dissolution. It will lend you some insight into how he will handle discord and business disagreements with you as well.
I have tried to make my partner happy since 1996. And his first wife tried to make him happy for 18 years before that. There may be issues surrounding the failures of his failed partnerships that you might want to explore further. However, based on how you have been complicit in hiding your affair on the job and in public, perhaps you don't really care much about Glenn's best interest or long term happiness. Or perhaps you think you two can be successful when others have failed. Or maybe you are not interested in his future security at all and are nothing more than a leech; drawing the money out of his arteries until he has no more to offer. But I can only judge behavior. I do not know your heart.
When my friends and I first saw you with my then husband Glenn, we were aghast. We figured he was just giving you a ride home. We were expecting to find that he was going over a male friend's house to spend the night, because that is what Glenn had led me to believe. So we guessed that you were a friend of a friend. The long fingernails and fake hair that you had at the time, were things that we knew were unattractive to Glenn. But when the two of you reached your apt on First Street and you attempted to give him a kiss, only to be rebuffed; that is when we knew. And we were thoroughly shocked; Glenn looked so lost and out of sync with himself.
Not that everyone has a right to pursue their version of beautiful for themselves. We all do. However my then husband Glenn had led me to believe though that your version was something he would never be attracted to.
And when I saw your My Space profile and your pictures there, it only served to confirm my first impressions. I do not understand the world of Santa in thongs, tag names like 'NIgaz betta watch out for Dem pockets,' or men pursuing you because they've seen your online video. Or even men posting and perusing about how many other men may have had the pleasure of your boobies; or friends who would encourage you to 'go after' a married man.
Still however, everyone is entitled to their lifestyle. - I do not know a wise woman though who would encourage another woman to pursue, be pursued or otherwise have secret relations with a married man. Or who would greet the pool guy wearing hot pants while their beloved is at work. Personally, I think the lies, secrets, and online comments have been utterly disgusting. But the anger, sorrow and pain I have experienced over these past two years have given me the most wonderfully unique opportunity to transition into an even more beautiful person.
And I sincerely thank you both for that.
Finally, I would caution you about using brothers, family or friends to try and intimidate or physically accost a woman in order to keep her away from a man you consider your own. For me, if I had to do that in the beginning, then I would think that I would have to be prepared to do it all through my relationship with him. I would never suggest doing that in order to hold onto a man, but then apparently you are. I would be wary of a man who acts like a dog; and who does not respect his wife or the vows that he gave her. Of course, none of this matters if you believe what you covet is justified, maybe because of whatever you were told or whatever you believe. Discovering that you had not yet divorced your own husband while sleeping with mine, gives me pause as to what exactly you do believe about courting, relationships, and marriage.
So perhaps I should just advise you to think about the two mottos you posted: "What goes around comes around" and "Any dick can make a baby, but it takes a man to be a daddy." Think about what has been going around these past two years; And consider this man's relationship with his five children - Is he a dick or a dad to them?
I made a vow to love this man through good times and bad, through ugly and nice; so do not be surprised that I love him still. But it is an agape love now - which wishes him the best in life, - his personal best, and the fulfillment of all that he can be. How that could be possible through his willingness to covertly live with another woman instead of working to pursue happiness with the love of his youth, I do not know. For these actions speak to something within him that friends and family never knew was possible for him. So do not be surprised that I would be concerned.
Do not be surprised that I would lift him up in prayer before the Great Redeemer, who is the only One who can heal the pain and shame that he must be feeling in order to behave so far outside of what everyone thought was his character. Pain that you and I can't heal. - And know that that is where I have left him.
For my calling is to a higher power; that requires the personal best from me too. Throughout this affair I have tried to my best to be done with the burden of a house divided against itself, in order that I could fulfill my potential as well. And a big part of the motivation in creating this website is to portray my journey in doing so, throughout the Anatomy of My Divorce.
I suggest you read the allegory "Why." All of us win and lose in life. Our competition is not with each other, but with the evil that lurks within us. If I were you, I would be wary of a man who would have another woman's ring on his hand while covertly promising that your the one he can really be true to. If it is money and benefits that you are after, be wary of what you might gain or lose in the process. All that glitters is not gold. Be cautious not to love too much; considering that you have already adopted a role of 'rescuing' this man. And 'Live righteously, so that when we are old we can look back and enjoy our lives again'.... Pursue a truer happiness.